Facebook is something one just can’t avoid. It’s everywhere: work, play, everyday conversations.
“Did you see that Grace is ‘in a relationship’ with Grant now? I saw it on her profile.”
“I just friended Matt and his profile pic is hilarious!”
It’s gossipy sometimes, other times it’s factual. But it’s almost always information overload.
Many people have reconnected with high school and college friends, and they’re able to stay in touch easily with “besties”, and of course, there’s all the pictures.
The other side of that though is social graces. One has to be polite because one snide comment can lead to a world of hurt. That and Facebook almost seems like a world apart – sometimes it’s difficult to merge Facebook life and real life.
For instance, if a “friend” has a very specific political agenda, spewing opinions and articles that go against everything you believe in, you’re at a crossroads. Do you . . .
A. Let them have it. Go all out and blast them out of the water for beliving in what you deem to be garbage. Do you provide your own articles proving them wrong? Get into a verbal bashing via a site where everyone can see? And then have it be very awkward the next time you see this person?
B. Ignore it. Click the “X” next to their name so your News Feed doesn’t include anything they post. At all.
Let’s face it. We ALL want to do option A. But the socially accepted way to do Facebook has become option B.
Someone posted on their Facebook site that “Anonymity makes one brave.”. This couldn’t be closer to the truth when it comes to sites like Craigslist. A person can post whatever they want, knowing if they just use a pseudonym, they’re safe.
That’s how it’s different with Facebook. Freedom of speech is a beautiful thing, but if you disagree, how can you do that tactfully? Especially if what you disagree with labels you as narrow minded?
There are people out there who make up alter ego Facebook sites. Ones where they can safely say their opinion under the guise of anonymity, just to get it out there. Maybe it makes them feel better, even if none of their “true friends” can see what their true feelings really are.
But then one has to wonder if there are others who share their feelings about everything from abortion, gay rights, politics, and other touchy subjects. Even if one feels like the minority, are they truly a minority, or are they a majority that is scared to speak up?
Facebook isn’t good or bad. It’s neutral with the tendancy to lean the way the majority rules it. So be open minded but be polite about it.